21 Fun Questions to Ask Your Kids
As a mom, I get so tired of asking, “How was your day?????” and getting the same boring answer EVERY single time. “GOOOODDDD” So, I had to come up with fun questions that I could ask to get a better response.
After all, I am their mom and I want to know more about their day and life than “good.” But I also don’t want to be too nosey and annoying.
Being a mom, my goal is to build an open relationship where my kids feel like they can talk to me without worry. I want them to know that I am there for them and that they can tell me things. Because I don’t want them telling other people things, getting their random advice, and me not knowing about it.
If you are looking for conversation starters, ways to get to know your kids on a deeper level, or just ways to talk to your kids about things they enjoy, these are the best questions to ask your kids at any age.
These are the best 21 fun questions to ask your kids.
21 Questions to Ask Your Kids
21 Fun Questions for Toddlers and Preschoolers
If you could be an animal, which one would you be and why?
What is your favorite toy today?
If your toys could talk, what would they say?
Who is your best friend?
What is your favorite thing to do outside?
What makes you happy?
If you could have any prize, what would it be?
What is the funniest face you can make?
What is your favorite sound?
What do you like to do with mommy?
What is your favorite thing to do with daddy?
What is your favorite thing to eat?
If you could taste a cloud, what do you think it would taste like?
If you were as small as a bug, where would you go first?
If you could make a new holiday, what would it be?
If you could miss school for one day, what would you do?
What kind of ice cream is your favorite?
What would you do if you could stay up all night long?
If animals could drive cars, which one would be the fastest?
If you could wear anything in the world, what would you wear?
** Fun Question - If you could be a color, what color would you be and why?
Any of these questions could be asked as dinner table ice-breakers, or on car rides on the way home from school. The 21 question game is a game that all kids love. They might even think of their own new question during the game. But it is really the best way to get them talking.
21 Fun Questions to ask a Kindergartener
What is the funniest thing you have ever seen?
If you could make any rule at home, what would it be?
Where would you go if you could fly?
What is your favorite smell?
What do you think the moon is made of?
If your (favorite toy) could talk, what would it say to you?
What are you BEST at?
If you could go anywhere in the world, where would you go?
If you could change the color of the grass, what color would it be?
If you were as big as a giant, what would you do?
If you could be any princess, who would you be?
If you could be any animal, what would you be?
What is your favorite color?
If you were a superhero, what would your superpower be?
If you could be any character from a show, who would you want to be?
What is something that is really funny?
If you could breathe underwater, what would you do?
If you could drive my car, where would you go first?
If you could eat anything in the world what would it be?
If you could make up your bedtime, when would you go to bed?
If there were no rules, what would you do first?
21 Fun Questions to ask Your Kids
What is something you learned recently that you think is cool?
What is your favorite thing to do when you’re bored?
If you could time travel, where would you go first?
If you could be invisible for a day, what would you do?
What is the best dream you have ever had?
If you could live in any book, movie, or show what would you pick?
If you could miss school for a week, where would you go?
What would you do if you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life?
If you met a genie, what would your three wishes be?
If you could tell me anything, what would it be?
If you could tell me anything and I promised to not get mad, what would you tell me?
Who is your favorite friend?
What do you like about school?
Do you have a favorite teacher?
Who is your favorite person in the world?
If you could be anything you wanted when you grow up, what would you be?
What is your favorite thing to do?
If you could describe yourself in 3 words, what would they be?
What do you think makes someone a good friend or person?
Who do you look up to, and why?
What is your favorite thing about yourself?
Having a teenager is hard enough as it is. Getting to know them on a deeper level is even harder when they already don’t want to talk. I made a list of the best ice-breaker type questions you can ask your teenager to get the ball rolling. It is a great mix between asking a fun question but also good questions to get them thinking.
Asking questions is a great way to show that you care as a parent. The best thing you can do for your kids is give them a safe space to talk to you.
Different age groups obviously respond differently to thought-provoking questions. Older kids can answer deep questions and really get to thinking about their answers.
Always let them know that there are no wrong answers. And that they can always say how they really feel. This is a way to build strong bonds between the two of you.
21 Fun Questions to ask Your Teenager
What is something you are really passionate about?
If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
What’s a dream you’ve had for a long time?
What is the nicest thing someone has ever said to you?
What is something that inspires you?
If you could change one thing about how you’ve been raised, what would it be?
If you could create your own app, what would it be?
What is your favorite part about school?
What is something about yourself that you wish people understood better?
What is a major goal you have before you turn 20?
If you could give one piece of advice to your younger self, what would it be?
What’s a weird talent you wish you had?
What is something nobody else knows about you?
If you could make one rule that everyone had to follow, what would it be?
If you could have dinner with one person living or dead, who would it be and why?
If you could time travel to one place, where would it be?
What’s a question you’ve always wanted to ask someone but haven’t?
If your life was a playlist, what song would be on it?
What is something you have done that makes you feel proud?
What would be the first thing you did if you woke up as an adult tomorrow?
Questions for any Kids
If you could be a video game character, what would you be?
If you could be a cartoon character, what would you be?
If you had a time machine, where would you go?
If you could meet any TV character, who would it be?
What is the weirdest thing you have ever eaten?
If you could spend the day with any famous person, who would it be?
Where is your favorite place in the world?
What is your biggest fear?
What is your favorite sport?
If there was a zombie apocalypse, where would you go?
What has been your biggest regret?
What is your favorite movie?
What is your favorite subject from school?
What is the most important quality in a person?
Out of all the famous people, who would you pick as your parents?
Tips on Getting Your Kids to Talk to You
Kids are people. They just have smaller bodies.
Do you want to talk to people who aren’t ACTUALLY interested in what you have to say? I don’t think so. You probably try to avoid talking to them. Your kids know when you are being genuine.
So my #1 tip to get your kids to talk to you is to talk to them like they are REAL people. If you do this, they might actually want to talk to you.
Even if your kids are toddlers, they still understand what you are saying. They know if you respect them or if you treat them like they don’t know anything. This might be a hard truth, but it is the truth.
The other day I was in a coffee shop and I heard this lady talking to her kids in the most demeaning way. She was treating them worse than I would treat my worst enemy. And I don’t doubt she thinks they are stupid and don’t understand.
But, I know they do. No wonder they were giving her such a hard time. I wouldn’t listen to anyone who treated me that way. Would you???
So…. why would you expect your kids to listen to you when you treat them like they can’t listen???
My #2 tip is to talk to them about things that they WANT to talk about. As a mom or parent, you know what your kids are interested in. If you are only talking to them about what YOU are interested in, they aren’t going to want to talk to you.
Again, this goes to point #1 where you need to treat them like a person. How would you feel if someone only talked about their problems to you over and over and never asked about you. Or never asked something about you but only talked about what they cared about.
You probably wouldn’t talk to that person very often. Just because they are your kids, doesn’t mean they don’t feel the same way.
My #3 tip is that YOU set the TONE for the conversation and the environment. If your kid thinks or knows you are going to get mad at what they say, they are not going to want to talk to you. If you don’t create an environment for your kids to tell you things, they won’t.
Even when my kids were little I would say, “You can tell mommy and I will listen. I won’t get mad.” and they would tell me. But it was on me to let them and to keep my word. They are smart and they know if you are going to or not. And they WONT forget.
The Most Important Rule for Kids of Any Age
Growing up, I had one rule:
If you are honest, come to me, and tell me before I find out, you will NOT be in trouble. But, if I find out or you lie, there will be consequences.
This rule was extremely important and difficult for both me and my parents. But, you know what?? The first time I did something really really bad, I went into my parents room and told them. They didn’t get mad and kept their word.
And I knew from that point on that I could trust them. I could count on them to listen. And I didn’t hide things from them.
As a mom, this is the most important thing I want to teach my kids. It is not easy at all for your kid to tell you or for you not to get upset.
BUT, it is much worse for them to hide everything from you. This leaves you in a position where you can’t help them. And they are going to go to other people or the internet for help. Which is not what you want as their parent.
